An Example of What It Means To Match the Vibe of What You Want

The following is excerpted from my book, F*ck the How:

When my divorce went down (back in 2019), I decided to move back to my hometown to live near my family. Once I did, I realized how much extra time I had on my hands and I was bored. So I signed up to be an InstaCart shopper, figuring I enjoyed grocery shopping and could deliver groceries and make extra cash. But after signing up, I didn’t actually do any grocery shops. I just left my InstaCart card stuffed in a box in my closet.

Then the 2020 pandemic hit and I lost a good chunk of my income (a combination of the pandemic and decisions I made to shut down certain income streams that no longer felt aligned for me).

I became insanely stressed about money, which led to me becoming obsessed with why I wasn’t attracting any money, given everything I knew about the Law of Attraction and manifestation (turns out I had BIG lessons to learn during that time, but that’s a story for another book). I had months upon months where no money came into my business, and I wasn’t able to pay any bills or even buy food (thankfully I had support in my life). I couldn’t understand what was happening or why. I was so stressed. I was pissed off and resentful. I was angry at the Universe. I felt like it abandoned me. I was fighting my reality so hard.

The funny thing is, the entire time I was stressed, and angry, and resentful about not making money in my business, my InstaCart card was sitting there. It was available for me to use to deliver someone’s groceries and get paid for it. I could’ve been using it for most of 2020 to make extra cash when it felt like things in my business were tanking.

But I wasn’t on a vibrational frequency that would allow the Universe to remind me that the InstaCart card was even there to begin with. I was completely blocking it with my negative vibration. And it wasn’t until early January 2021, when I made a decision I had put off for years–to finally go all-in on being an author–that my vibration shifted.

A few days later, it felt like a bolt of lightning hit my brain and I suddenly remembered–Holy shit! I could temporarily do InstaCart! And I could’ve been supplementing my barely existent business income by doing InstaCart shops the entire time I was worried and freaking out about money. Not to mention how many more people were using InstaCart being stuck at home in 2020.

The idea to do InstaCart never occurred to me, not even once during that stressful money time in my life. I wasn’t on the vibrational frequency to be able to receive that thought. I had to first feel better and release the resistance to what was going on before I was finally receptive to it.

…And you can read the rest in my book, F*ck the How (chapter 6).

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It’s the Only Thing I Was Ever Really Sure About

I’ve been running an online business since 2007, and there have been dozens of iterations of that business over all of those years.

I have test-driven so many different dreams and desires and versions of myself.

I’ve been a journalist, a magazine editor, a freelance writer, a creative wellness coach, a book editor, a story coach. I’ve created a t-shirt line, a blog, dozens of digital courses, a podcast, a TikTok (and YouTube) channel, hosted workshops, taught in-person classes. I’ve built things and refurbished furniture and gotten certified in interior design.

And let’s not forget the 16+ books I’ve written and self-published.

I’ve tried it all. I’m multi-passionate AF and damn proud of it.

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Hitting A Dream Milestone

I just got back from an 8-day trip to Las Vegas and discovered I hit four figures in book royalties for this month so far (and the month isn’t even over yet!)!! That means my cut of my book sales for this month is over $1,000!

This is a dream milestone for me. I dreamed of being able to make money like this from my books way back in 2010 (and even before) when I self-published my very first book.

I used to make four figures from my books in a year, and now it’s happening in a month.

I couldn’t be more thrilled! Not only to be making a livable amount of money from my books but also to be getting my books into more people’s hands and helping them to manifest and create their dream lives too.

The truth is, this is the first time in my 13+ year self-publishing career that I’ve really put the majority of my focus on my books–on writing them, self-publishing them, promoting them, and selling them. Before now, I’ve always had a million different things going on, all with different desired outcomes and end results.

Now, I just have this: write books, sell books, change lives. Or, really: write books + sell books = change lives.

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My 2023 Daily Mindset Practice

I don’t always have a specific mindset practice that I do.

When I started out doing mindset work back in August 2015, I had a set practice. It had three parts to it and I did them religiously every single day without fail for years.

But after many years of doing this, I began to realize that I was getting better at shifting my mindset in the moment.

Negative thoughts or limiting beliefs would pop up, and I would catch myself thinking them, and could immediately shift to a better-feeling thought. I was even able to do this as negative words were coming out of my mouth and could change them mid-sentence.

When this started happening, I eased up on my mindset practice.

I was still working on my mindset every day, but I didn’t have a formal practice around it. I was doing the work in my head, as things popped up for me.

This worked for me for several years, and I coasted along.

But recently, I’ve been feeling the urge to have a more specific mindset practice again. Especially for this year, since I have a quantum leap goal I want to achieve.

My current practice has four parts to it. I don’t always do the parts in order. Sometimes I do, and sometimes I skip around because that’s what I’m feeling in the moment.

I do this entire mindset practice in a document on my computer, so I can keep it all in one place. I used to do it in a handwritten journal, but lately typing it out has been the vibe.

Here’s what my practice currently looks like:

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When Old Things Trigger You

Today, I ran into a person who I hadn’t seen in twenty years.

A person who triggers the fuck out of me and who did and said things back in my teen years that made me feel not good enough. And I got triggered again.

Truth be told, feeling not good enough is kinda my “inner demon.” It’s that inner thing I struggle with more than anything else.

So it’s not surprising that I experienced so much of feeling that way growing up, and that I can still be triggered by those same things today.

The only difference is, today I know better.

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