Live A Life That Feels Good To You And You’ll No Longer Care What Anyone Else Thinks Or Says Or Does

Back when I had a day job, I used to commute to an office. And like so many other people in the world, I used to drive aggressively (mostly because I was always running late).

I would fly past cars that were going too slow and weave in and out of traffic to get a tiny bit closer to where I needed to be (the opening scene from “Office Space” comes to mind). I would yell at other drivers (to myself) while stuck in traffic. It was ugly. And it definitely didn’t feel good.

But then I quit my job in March 2012, and I decided something: I would never again drive that way.

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Confidence Is Something You Create–Here’s How

A lot of writers and creatives tell me they “wish they had my confidence.” And it’s true; I am confident, especially in my abilities as a writer and my willingness to put my creative stuff (and myself) out into the world.

But it wasn’t always like that.

There was a time when it took me 100 tries just to make a two-minute video. There was a time when I wouldn’t even speak my opinion out loud to anyone because I didn’t want them to judge me or think bad of me. There was a time when I kept my ideas, my thoughts, my gifts to myself and didn’t put them out there at all.

Until I realized, I actually did have something to say. I actually had learned quite a bit over the course of my life that I could teach others. And I wanted to.

So that also meant I had to get over myself and find a way to put my stuff out there.

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Don’t Let Anyone Convince You That Being Self-Published Mean You’re Not A “Real” Author

Last week, I received a hater email from someone who said that I’m not a “real author” because I’m self-published (and funnily enough, this person is also self-published).

Normally I don’t put energy into hater stuff because there’s really no point. You’ll never change a hater’s mind or convince them they’re wrong.

What this person said didn’t bother me at all because I know it’s not true. I’ve got 12+ books out there and they all have an average of 4 stars (out of 5) and multiple reviews.

Clearly, I’m doing something right.

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“Business Before Pleasure” (and Other Limiting Beliefs) That Could Be Holding You Back

We’ve all been taught so many BS limiting beliefs that we sometimes don’t even realize that’s what’s going on. We spout these societal sayings off like it’s the truth when really it’s just total BS made up by another human who chose to believe that for themselves and then spread it around like wildfire. But that doesn’t make it the truth.

Case in point, a VERY common belief MOST people have is: Business before pleasure.

How many times over the course of your life have you been told, said or thought the words, “Business before pleasure?” My guess is, MANY.

I know because I used to think, say, and believe the same thing.

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It’s When Things Go Wrong That You Must Not Quit

This morning I received an incredibly uplifting text message from my friend, author, Thomas Russell (go listen to his radio show and podcast Life Without Limits) and I wanted to share with you my favorite line from that message: “it’s when things go wrong that you must not quit.”

The whole message was amazing but this line struck me the most, because it’s SO true.

When things are going wrong, falling apart, feeling like they’re not working, never gonna work and you’re just wasting your time, it’s easy to quit. To throw in the towel and just say, “screw this.”

It’s what most people do.

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