Confidence Is Something You Create–Here’s How

A lot of writers and creatives tell me they “wish they had my confidence.” And it’s true; I am confident, especially in my abilities as a writer and my willingness to put my creative stuff (and myself) out into the world.

But it wasn’t always like that.

There was a time when it took me 100 tries just to make a two-minute video. There was a time when I wouldn’t even speak my opinion out loud to anyone because I didn’t want them to judge me or think bad of me. There was a time when I kept my ideas, my thoughts, my gifts to myself and didn’t put them out there at all.

Until I realized, I actually did have something to say. I actually had learned quite a bit over the course of my life that I could teach others. And I wanted to.

So that also meant I had to get over myself and find a way to put my stuff out there.

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Don’t Let Anyone Convince You That Being Self-Published Mean You’re Not A “Real” Author

Last week, I received a hater email from someone who said that I’m not a “real author” because I’m self-published (and funnily enough, this person is also self-published).

Normally I don’t put energy into hater stuff because there’s really no point. You’ll never change a hater’s mind or convince them they’re wrong.

What this person said didn’t bother me at all because I know it’s not true. I’ve got 12+ books out there and they all have an average of 4 stars (out of 5) and multiple reviews.

Clearly, I’m doing something right.

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“Business Before Pleasure” (and Other Limiting Beliefs) That Could Be Holding You Back

We’ve all been taught so many BS limiting beliefs that we sometimes don’t even realize that’s what’s going on. We spout these societal sayings off like it’s the truth when really it’s just total BS made up by another human who chose to believe that for themselves and then spread it around like wildfire. But that doesn’t make it the truth.

Case in point, a VERY common belief MOST people have is: Business before pleasure.

How many times over the course of your life have you been told, said or thought the words, “Business before pleasure?” My guess is, MANY.

I know because I used to think, say, and believe the same thing.

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Isn’t It Time You Stopped Buying Into The Bullshit About What It Means To Be ‘Healthy?’

I think some of the best writing comes from our triggers. There is power in writing about and sharing things that cause you to have an emotional charge.

This is one of those posts for me.

It came from a MAJOR trigger that I have, and this morning, that trigger was set off by a single sentence.

The sentence said: “We might even have to go into a government-funded nursing home because of our failing health.”

Now, none of what I’m about to say has anything to do with the author or even the book itself. In fact, the author was only giving an imagined for-instance example about retirement.

What triggered me and set me off was that sentence, whether real or an imagined example, is what’s wrong with the way people think about health and aging.

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Every Queen Needs A Chariot

I’ve wanted a Jeep since I was a kid. I just always knew that was my car brand. I always believed I would drive a Jeep when I grew up.

Well, I grew up and I still didn’t have my Jeep.

Most would panic or start telling themselves nonsense like it’s not available for them, they can’t have it, it’s not meant to be. But I just continued to believe.

Then three years ago, I was at Auto Zone buying something to fix my previous vehicle (a 2002 Chevy Cavalier) and I saw this Jeep keychain.

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